The Winning Stepfamilies website predicts that the blended family will become the predominant family structure in the United States. This is mainly due to the fact that over 50 percent of first marriages and 75 percent of second marriages end in divorce, as reported by Blended Family Statistics Total Life Counseling Center. Since most people do tend to remarry, the blended family becomes more and more common everyday.

Over one million children experience the divorce of their parents each year, according to the Rebuilding Families website. Sixty-five percent of those children will end up in a blended family due to the remarriage of one or both biological parents remarrying, according to Help Guide.

So I’m back living at home at my dad’s. Needed a fresh start. Unfortunately circumstances have brought me back to where I was a year ago. I’m thankful, grateful that my dad has been here for the help during this SingleMom journey of mine. Almost 3 years since my life has forever been changed. Its been a month since back in Florida from California. A different dynamic but a lot of the same.  My dad has remarried, making this marriage #3. My dad’s second wife was a true BITCH!

My sister, brother, and I were still living at home when my dad met a woman with 3 kids (girls) who abruptly moved in. Not much talk about it, no talk really at all, besides being told this was happening; our lives forever changed. My sister was the first pushed out by her; her thing was, “that’s not your daughter”. My sister moved in with someone from church. While I was evicted from my room to make them more comfortable. Now sleeping in my sisters room down stairs, also sleeping in her bed where she should be; which then again was a daily reminder of the state of things.

I was next, she played the I’m trying to help you role when actually it was, allow me to help you to move out as soon as possible. She secured me a job working graveyard for a nursing home. Only to be awaken by her kids every morning after my shifts playing right outside my bedroom door. Couple months into the job insisted I look for an apartment, she made sure I got in no matter the cost; she had check stubs doctored. That was that I was out! My little brother still at home starts to act out… So much so she felt he needed to be in a group home for boys. My brother in my opinion was never the same after that. None of us have been the same since. We have all showed signs from the abandonment and lack of communication that was also our lives not just our parents lives.

My parents separated my senior year of high school. During the separation, Dad would spend one week in the house with us the next week Mom. My parents fought on and off throughout our lives, when things were good it was great! When things were bad; they were horrible to each other.

Here I am now today speaking on blended families, giving you the blended family life,  I/we experienced.

Another family that’s to be blended and I have to say at this point FUCK a blended family! I have no more energy, interest trying to force conversation, be cordial, or clean up after, or even speak to his wife’s offspring; or stand by as my kid gets slapped with an open hand to the face, multiple scratches in the face, and yet another incident last night where this kid slams the bedroom door in my sons face only to have his lip busted in the process while this childs guardian stands idly by once again and doesn’t say SHIT!

So the slap incident… I witnessed and immediately say to the child , ” keep your hands to yourself”, and along with it the dead stare followed. For what seems like the hundredth time I’ve had to tell this child this but of course the correction would make sense for it to come from the parent especially when you are present in the “moments”
your child is acting a straight up menace TRUE or FALSE? Instead calling your kid away seems to be your go to method”. Good luck with that!

When I witness my child treating anyone rudely best believe he gets snatched up, he will know right then and there that is not ok! I get allowing kids to be kids but when you witness your own child being treated with malicious intent over and over again i have a problem. I’m now watching your kid on mine.

Who’s to say as a parent how you would react when you see your child bullied at age 2; well SHIT I know now and it is not kind. I’m not with it, I’ll be in your kids face so you better wrangle that kid quick!

How do you tell your 2 year old, “that kid right there is not your friend, keep your guard up”! Instead he’s the playful little guy that brushes off the countless incidents, but Mom just can’t! Not when done repeatedly with no correction.

If you have an issue with me correcting your child, address me right there; because I’m sure to do so if I have a problem. I would tell you right there to talk to your child. I hate that it seems that’s all I ever say to this child is, “keep your hands to yourself”! So now I have a 3 year old that gives me the evil eye in passing. Is she 3 years old or 20!

Parenting comes with judgements apparently, and a lot of them! I’ve been judging the SHIT out of some stuff! I’m a new person in that way.

As a SingleMom now I have to be mindful of not my own environment but my kids as well. I came to my dads house for my son to have the freedom and space to run free unlike living in an apartment. Not to mention the opportunity to get some things right before I go it on my own alone. I didn’t take as much time as I needed to initially. Seems my time frame of things must be moved up.

So here I am venting about another family married in. Dynamic the same as the last and one before. My dad unfortunately made to be in the middle because wife decided to take her complaints to him instead of me an adult; not sure what she thought the outcome would be, a spanking perhaps, time out maybe lol.  Nip it in the bud right away is the way I like to operate.

Rose colored glasses removed. I see how you move; I move accordingly. I stay out the way allow my dad and yet another wife and kids to move as they move and wait for more of the push out. You would think if history repeated itself you would take notice.